1 00:00:00,124 --> 00:00:02,707 (upbeat music) 2 00:00:04,710 --> 00:00:05,836 - Hi, I'm Lea Woodford 3 00:00:05,836 --> 00:00:08,180 and welcome to Between the Lines 4 00:00:08,180 --> 00:00:11,080 and with me today is Jake Ballentine 5 00:00:11,080 --> 00:00:14,680 author of "Your Number One Goal." 6 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:16,050 Welcome to the show, Jake. 7 00:00:16,050 --> 00:00:17,230 - Thanks so much, Lea. 8 00:00:17,230 --> 00:00:21,200 - Oh Jake, this book was not what I expected. 9 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:22,870 Can we talk about it? 10 00:00:22,870 --> 00:00:23,890 - Absolutely. 11 00:00:23,890 --> 00:00:28,020 - The book was really, really, very, very personal. 12 00:00:28,020 --> 00:00:29,680 I thought this was gonna be a business book 13 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:32,910 and yet it was, but you got really deep 14 00:00:32,910 --> 00:00:34,580 and can we talk about that? 15 00:00:34,580 --> 00:00:35,688 - Yeah, it's interesting you say that. 16 00:00:35,688 --> 00:00:36,970 "I thought it was a business book." 17 00:00:36,970 --> 00:00:38,930 I mean it's for any goals 18 00:00:38,930 --> 00:00:39,980 it doesn't matter what it is 19 00:00:39,980 --> 00:00:42,290 the same principles apply across the board 20 00:00:42,290 --> 00:00:46,160 but people get so stuck in, here's my business life 21 00:00:46,160 --> 00:00:50,490 here's my business life and then here's my other life 22 00:00:50,490 --> 00:00:52,458 and here's my fitness life and then 23 00:00:52,458 --> 00:00:55,060 we compartmentalize everything 24 00:00:55,060 --> 00:00:57,860 but in reality the reason why someone's not 25 00:00:57,860 --> 00:00:59,120 reaching their goals in their business 26 00:00:59,120 --> 00:01:02,320 has very little to do with not knowing what to do 27 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:05,090 it has stuff to do with what's going on internally 28 00:01:05,090 --> 00:01:06,520 what's going on inside their mind 29 00:01:06,520 --> 00:01:08,830 what's going on inside their heart 30 00:01:08,830 --> 00:01:10,410 and so I decided, you know 31 00:01:10,410 --> 00:01:11,980 the principles that I share in this book 32 00:01:11,980 --> 00:01:14,610 are very much about my personal life 33 00:01:14,610 --> 00:01:16,155 because at the end of the day 34 00:01:16,155 --> 00:01:18,330 that's what gets us to do things. 35 00:01:18,330 --> 00:01:19,511 What gets us to do things is 36 00:01:19,511 --> 00:01:23,310 do we have a why that's stronger than 37 00:01:23,310 --> 00:01:25,170 any excuse that we have. 38 00:01:25,170 --> 00:01:27,090 - Now let's back that up. 39 00:01:27,090 --> 00:01:29,193 Your why, let's talk about your why. 40 00:01:29,193 --> 00:01:32,140 I was blown away when I read that. 41 00:01:32,140 --> 00:01:33,512 Let's talk about your why because 42 00:01:33,512 --> 00:01:34,758 people are wondering 43 00:01:34,758 --> 00:01:36,120 what's your why? - What are we talking about? 44 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:38,600 So we were told, my wife and I were told 45 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:40,924 that we would never be able to have children. 46 00:01:40,924 --> 00:01:43,159 We were told that by the doctors 47 00:01:43,159 --> 00:01:46,690 and basically said there's nothing we can do about it 48 00:01:46,690 --> 00:01:48,510 there's nothing that can be done 49 00:01:48,510 --> 00:01:52,050 and for awhile I didn't really wanna talk about this 50 00:01:52,050 --> 00:01:53,210 but hey, I wrote it in a book 51 00:01:53,210 --> 00:01:55,360 so now it's open and out there. 52 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:58,300 But, and I was the reason for that 53 00:01:58,300 --> 00:02:00,558 and that was really hard for me to deal with 54 00:02:00,558 --> 00:02:03,510 and so we were married seven years 55 00:02:03,510 --> 00:02:06,010 and still just thinking there's no possibility 56 00:02:06,010 --> 00:02:07,220 I guess it was a little before that 57 00:02:07,220 --> 00:02:08,690 six years at that point 58 00:02:08,690 --> 00:02:10,120 and I said, okay 59 00:02:11,430 --> 00:02:13,650 the doctors say there's nothing we can do. 60 00:02:13,650 --> 00:02:15,460 Well at the time I was 60 pounds 61 00:02:15,460 --> 00:02:17,200 heavier than I am right now 62 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:20,120 and I said, okay so the doctors say 63 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:21,450 this won't change anything 64 00:02:21,450 --> 00:02:23,829 but at the end of the day I feel like 65 00:02:23,829 --> 00:02:26,210 I wanna do everything that I can. 66 00:02:26,210 --> 00:02:28,947 I wanna do everything that I can to be able to fix this 67 00:02:28,947 --> 00:02:30,590 and to be able to have the family 68 00:02:30,590 --> 00:02:32,190 that we've always dreamed of 69 00:02:32,190 --> 00:02:33,850 and even though I asked the doctor 70 00:02:33,850 --> 00:02:34,683 would this change things? 71 00:02:34,683 --> 00:02:36,010 He said probably not. 72 00:02:36,010 --> 00:02:37,710 But I wanted to be able to say 73 00:02:37,710 --> 00:02:39,970 okay, you know what, I've done everything I can 74 00:02:39,970 --> 00:02:42,350 and at this point it's not in my hands 75 00:02:42,350 --> 00:02:44,520 I've done everything that I possibly can 76 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:47,150 and so I had a why that was so strong 77 00:02:47,150 --> 00:02:49,930 where before when I wanted to reach this goal 78 00:02:49,930 --> 00:02:51,100 where I wanted to lose weight and wanted 79 00:02:51,100 --> 00:02:52,950 to get into better physical condition 80 00:02:55,579 --> 00:02:58,620 I wanted it, but I also wanted convenience 81 00:02:58,620 --> 00:03:00,180 more than I wanted that goal. 82 00:03:00,180 --> 00:03:02,580 I also wanted to do this fun thing 83 00:03:02,580 --> 00:03:04,050 more than I wanted that goal. 84 00:03:04,050 --> 00:03:05,770 Now when it was compared to 85 00:03:05,770 --> 00:03:07,780 okay, am I gonna go out of my way 86 00:03:07,780 --> 00:03:10,284 to find healthy food when I just landed 87 00:03:10,284 --> 00:03:12,100 and it's 11 o'clock at night 88 00:03:12,100 --> 00:03:13,510 and I just wanna go to my hotel 89 00:03:13,510 --> 00:03:16,600 and I just wanna go through a fast food place 90 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:19,240 at those times, that's when your why matters 91 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:20,700 because at that time 92 00:03:20,700 --> 00:03:24,950 okay, do I want to go through 93 00:03:24,950 --> 00:03:27,700 the inconvenience more than I want to look better? 94 00:03:27,700 --> 00:03:29,160 No, I don't. 95 00:03:29,160 --> 00:03:30,800 Do I wanna go through that inconvenience 96 00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:32,860 more than I wanna have a child? 97 00:03:32,860 --> 00:03:35,460 You know what, I'm willing to go through that inconvenience 98 00:03:35,460 --> 00:03:37,170 because I wanna have that family 99 00:03:37,170 --> 00:03:39,080 and now I'm very happy to say 100 00:03:39,080 --> 00:03:42,087 that we have a two year old in our life and-- 101 00:03:42,087 --> 00:03:43,304 - And he's beautiful. 102 00:03:43,304 --> 00:03:45,270 - He's beautiful, he's amazing 103 00:03:45,270 --> 00:03:48,200 and we're so happy to have him. 104 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:50,590 But in this book I talk about this principle 105 00:03:50,590 --> 00:03:53,240 applying to any goal, any goal of any size 106 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:55,270 whether it's personal, financial 107 00:03:55,270 --> 00:03:57,510 physical, business, it does not matter. 108 00:03:57,510 --> 00:03:58,663 When it comes down to it 109 00:03:58,663 --> 00:04:00,900 it's a very simple formula. 110 00:04:00,900 --> 00:04:03,200 If your reason is stronger than your excuse 111 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:04,430 you can do anything. 112 00:04:04,430 --> 00:04:06,330 If your excuse is stronger than your reason 113 00:04:06,330 --> 00:04:07,653 you don't stand a chance. 114 00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:10,160 - I've seen you speak 115 00:04:10,160 --> 00:04:11,440 for those of you who don't know 116 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:13,780 Jake is a professional speaker 117 00:04:13,780 --> 00:04:17,059 and entertainer, because you also play a mean guitar. 118 00:04:17,059 --> 00:04:18,050 - Well thank you. 119 00:04:18,050 --> 00:04:18,883 - And sing. 120 00:04:20,370 --> 00:04:22,993 What was your biggest challenge writing this book? 121 00:04:25,350 --> 00:04:27,330 'Cause it's really personal. 122 00:04:27,330 --> 00:04:28,973 - You know what, I was 123 00:04:28,973 --> 00:04:32,700 because of being a speaker, I'd shared all these stories. 124 00:04:32,700 --> 00:04:34,200 I'd talked about everything. 125 00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:35,840 For me, the hardest part of writing a book 126 00:04:35,840 --> 00:04:37,390 was sitting down and writing it 127 00:04:37,390 --> 00:04:38,660 'cause I'm not a writer. 128 00:04:38,660 --> 00:04:40,500 I'm a speaker, I'm a communicator. 129 00:04:40,500 --> 00:04:41,550 I'm not a reader. 130 00:04:41,550 --> 00:04:44,190 I listen to books constantly 131 00:04:44,190 --> 00:04:45,750 I listen to two books a month 132 00:04:45,750 --> 00:04:48,450 I don't actually like sitting down and reading a book. 133 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:51,600 I honestly don't ready very well 134 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:53,480 I get a lot more comprehension out of 135 00:04:53,480 --> 00:04:54,770 listening to a book 136 00:04:54,770 --> 00:04:56,440 and so I wanted to write this book 137 00:04:56,440 --> 00:04:57,640 I don't enjoy writing 138 00:04:57,640 --> 00:04:59,450 it's not something that comes easy to me 139 00:04:59,450 --> 00:05:01,360 so the hardest part was struggling through 140 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:02,430 okay, how am I gonna do this 141 00:05:02,430 --> 00:05:03,730 how am I actually gonna do this? 142 00:05:03,730 --> 00:05:06,470 Because I want to and so I took a different approach 143 00:05:06,470 --> 00:05:10,450 where I wrote it like my day log workshop 144 00:05:10,450 --> 00:05:13,410 and so for me that means writing an outline 145 00:05:13,410 --> 00:05:14,640 and then I just spoke it. 146 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:17,550 I spoke it into my phone 147 00:05:17,550 --> 00:05:20,540 and I sent it off to a website that transcribes it 148 00:05:20,540 --> 00:05:23,010 then I had it professionally edited and did all that 149 00:05:23,010 --> 00:05:26,480 so for me it wasn't the getting personal side 150 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:29,410 because that's something that I do 151 00:05:29,410 --> 00:05:30,690 I'm pretty comfortable with it 152 00:05:30,690 --> 00:05:32,820 I'm pretty comfortable with it because I speak 153 00:05:32,820 --> 00:05:34,710 in front of thousands of people 154 00:05:34,710 --> 00:05:38,080 and you know, yesterday I told some pretty 155 00:05:38,080 --> 00:05:39,456 personal stories, you know. - I know you did. 156 00:05:39,456 --> 00:05:40,289 - It's how I go. 157 00:05:40,289 --> 00:05:42,250 And it's just, I don't mind doing that 158 00:05:42,250 --> 00:05:44,250 because I feel like the one thing 159 00:05:44,250 --> 00:05:47,130 that everyone has in common is everyone's 160 00:05:47,130 --> 00:05:49,720 going through something challenging right now. 161 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:51,840 Everyone of you right now is going through 162 00:05:51,840 --> 00:05:54,670 something challenging at this moment. 163 00:05:54,670 --> 00:05:56,220 I believe that we should treat all people 164 00:05:56,220 --> 00:05:58,270 like they're hurting, because they are. 165 00:05:58,270 --> 00:05:59,660 Not because they might be 166 00:05:59,660 --> 00:06:01,570 not because maybe something's going on 167 00:06:01,570 --> 00:06:04,130 but every single person is going through something 168 00:06:04,130 --> 00:06:05,703 and if we keep things surface level 169 00:06:05,703 --> 00:06:08,290 they feel like they're alone. 170 00:06:08,290 --> 00:06:11,850 And when I come onstage, just because I'm onstage 171 00:06:11,850 --> 00:06:15,010 they assume that I'm something special. 172 00:06:15,010 --> 00:06:17,370 They assume that, well this guy is on the stage 173 00:06:18,380 --> 00:06:20,865 there's some reason he's on the stage 174 00:06:20,865 --> 00:06:24,382 and if I can talk about challenges I've gone through 175 00:06:24,382 --> 00:06:25,454 then the people watching go 176 00:06:25,454 --> 00:06:28,413 oh wow, maybe I'm not broken 177 00:06:28,413 --> 00:06:30,210 maybe it's okay. 178 00:06:30,210 --> 00:06:32,140 Maybe it's okay that I'm going through this. 179 00:06:32,140 --> 00:06:33,300 And the problem that people have 180 00:06:33,300 --> 00:06:35,720 is not that they're going through challenges 181 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:37,100 it's that they think they shouldn't 182 00:06:37,100 --> 00:06:38,520 be going through challenges 183 00:06:38,520 --> 00:06:40,415 and they feel shame for going through challenges 184 00:06:40,415 --> 00:06:43,650 they feel like there's something wrong with them 185 00:06:43,650 --> 00:06:45,460 for going through these challenges 186 00:06:45,460 --> 00:06:47,770 and that's life, we all go through challenges 187 00:06:47,770 --> 00:06:49,560 it's how you deal with them. 188 00:06:49,560 --> 00:06:51,590 So I have become very comfortable 189 00:06:51,590 --> 00:06:55,250 over the last couple of years talking about challenges 190 00:06:55,250 --> 00:06:58,930 because I feel like people need to understand 191 00:06:58,930 --> 00:07:00,580 that they're not alone 192 00:07:00,580 --> 00:07:03,060 and in our world of superficial 193 00:07:03,060 --> 00:07:05,440 you know, people broadcasting their life 194 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:08,240 and curating their life to look so perfect 195 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:10,950 I think that people are more connected than ever 196 00:07:10,950 --> 00:07:13,569 but yet people feel more lonely than ever. 197 00:07:13,569 --> 00:07:15,030 - So disconnected. 198 00:07:15,030 --> 00:07:17,930 What would you say to your 21 year old self? 199 00:07:17,930 --> 00:07:20,022 Now that you're, what 30? 200 00:07:20,022 --> 00:07:20,855 - 33. 201 00:07:20,855 --> 00:07:21,940 - 33. 202 00:07:21,940 --> 00:07:22,973 If you could go back in time 203 00:07:22,973 --> 00:07:24,803 what would you say to yourself? 204 00:07:26,030 --> 00:07:27,707 - I would say that 205 00:07:27,707 --> 00:07:29,640 I'd just say, you can do it. 206 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:31,530 Believe in yourself, you can do it. 207 00:07:31,530 --> 00:07:34,780 I struggled with that, I struggled with that belief. 208 00:07:34,780 --> 00:07:37,620 As soon as I believe that I can do something 209 00:07:37,620 --> 00:07:38,560 I do it. 210 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:41,010 Honestly, everything I've ever put my mind to 211 00:07:41,010 --> 00:07:44,310 really put my mind to, I've been able to accomplish 212 00:07:44,310 --> 00:07:47,421 and that is because I get to that point 213 00:07:47,421 --> 00:07:49,870 and once I have that switch go in my head 214 00:07:49,870 --> 00:07:51,763 where I truly believe that I can 215 00:07:51,763 --> 00:07:53,200 then I'm able to do it. 216 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:55,580 And I'd probably say the same thing to myself 217 00:07:55,580 --> 00:07:58,800 to my 33 year old version when I'm 43 218 00:07:58,800 --> 00:08:01,837 but what I would say to that 21 year old self is 219 00:08:01,837 --> 00:08:03,277 "Look, dude, you can do this. 220 00:08:03,277 --> 00:08:04,547 "You got this. 221 00:08:04,547 --> 00:08:05,847 "Believe that you can. 222 00:08:05,847 --> 00:08:07,433 "You're better than you think you are 223 00:08:07,433 --> 00:08:09,970 "and you can do so much more than you think you can." 224 00:08:09,970 --> 00:08:11,555 That's what I'd say. 225 00:08:11,555 --> 00:08:13,630 - Now how do you think 226 00:08:13,630 --> 00:08:15,400 let's just talk about these things. 227 00:08:15,400 --> 00:08:16,233 - Yeah. 228 00:08:16,233 --> 00:08:17,066 - You know, we're talking 229 00:08:17,066 --> 00:08:18,250 your book is about focus. 230 00:08:18,250 --> 00:08:20,690 Don't you think these are major distractors? 231 00:08:20,690 --> 00:08:21,858 - Absolutely. 232 00:08:21,858 --> 00:08:24,610 I don't have any notifications on my phone. 233 00:08:24,610 --> 00:08:25,443 - Really? 234 00:08:25,443 --> 00:08:27,700 - Nope, I don't do notifications on my phone. 235 00:08:27,700 --> 00:08:30,040 No notifications from Facebook 236 00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:31,670 from Messenger, from email. 237 00:08:31,670 --> 00:08:33,020 The only way I get a notification 238 00:08:33,020 --> 00:08:35,320 is a text message, phone call, nothing else. 239 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:38,050 None of my apps have notifications on it 240 00:08:38,050 --> 00:08:42,511 because I don't want my life ran by every little beep 241 00:08:42,511 --> 00:08:44,090 I don't want that. 242 00:08:44,090 --> 00:08:45,260 So someone messages me 243 00:08:45,260 --> 00:08:47,550 I'm gonna get back to them on my time. 244 00:08:47,550 --> 00:08:48,383 If someone emails me 245 00:08:48,383 --> 00:08:50,090 I'm gonna get back to them on my time. 246 00:08:50,090 --> 00:08:53,050 They don't have the right to be able to 247 00:08:53,050 --> 00:08:54,990 take my time and I'm gonna put some 248 00:08:54,990 --> 00:08:57,620 responsibility on myself and anyone watching. 249 00:08:57,620 --> 00:09:01,500 You are giving your life away to other people 250 00:09:01,500 --> 00:09:03,760 when you allow those notifications 251 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:06,340 to take you away from that focus. 252 00:09:06,340 --> 00:09:07,876 I stay very focused. 253 00:09:07,876 --> 00:09:09,397 The reason why this book is called 254 00:09:09,397 --> 00:09:10,580 "Your Number One Goal" is because 255 00:09:10,580 --> 00:09:14,030 if you try to catch two rabbits, you will catch none. 256 00:09:14,030 --> 00:09:16,059 You're going after two different things at the same time 257 00:09:16,059 --> 00:09:19,690 you are not going to get the success that you think you are. 258 00:09:19,690 --> 00:09:23,090 People go after ten things at the same time 259 00:09:23,090 --> 00:09:26,050 not because, what they say is 260 00:09:26,050 --> 00:09:27,808 I wanna do so many things. 261 00:09:27,808 --> 00:09:29,860 I think that's rarely true. 262 00:09:29,860 --> 00:09:31,355 I think what's usually true is 263 00:09:31,355 --> 00:09:32,980 they have a belief that 264 00:09:32,980 --> 00:09:34,340 I don't know if this is gonna work 265 00:09:34,340 --> 00:09:36,540 so I don't wanna put all my eggs in one basket 266 00:09:36,540 --> 00:09:39,130 and so they say, well if I do this, this, this, and this 267 00:09:39,130 --> 00:09:40,040 throw everything at the wall 268 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:41,770 maybe one of them's gonna work 269 00:09:41,770 --> 00:09:43,971 and so I think that it takes real confidence 270 00:09:43,971 --> 00:09:46,350 to go all in on one thing. 271 00:09:46,350 --> 00:09:47,470 It really does. 272 00:09:47,470 --> 00:09:49,450 But you look at the highest achievers 273 00:09:49,450 --> 00:09:50,960 they go all in on one thing 274 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:52,120 and they become great at it. 275 00:09:52,120 --> 00:09:54,240 If you look at anything anyone's ever achieved 276 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:57,430 during that period of time, they were focused. 277 00:09:57,430 --> 00:09:58,390 And so I do 278 00:09:58,390 --> 00:10:02,020 I take lots of conscious effort 279 00:10:02,020 --> 00:10:03,962 to not allow myself to be distracted 280 00:10:03,962 --> 00:10:06,410 because it's easy for me to be distracted. 281 00:10:06,410 --> 00:10:08,530 That's something I know about myself. 282 00:10:08,530 --> 00:10:10,210 I know that if I get that notification 283 00:10:10,210 --> 00:10:13,660 from MLB.com saying that the Dodgers just scored a run 284 00:10:13,660 --> 00:10:15,620 I'm gonna look at it and I'm gonna look at-- 285 00:10:15,620 --> 00:10:16,490 - Priorities. 286 00:10:16,490 --> 00:10:17,770 - Well, but that's the point 287 00:10:17,770 --> 00:10:19,050 and I know that about myself. 288 00:10:19,050 --> 00:10:20,250 And everyone has those things 289 00:10:20,250 --> 00:10:23,100 whether it's a game, whether it's whatever. 290 00:10:23,100 --> 00:10:25,580 Whatever it is, a game, some kind of app 291 00:10:25,580 --> 00:10:28,100 whatever it is that you enjoy looking at 292 00:10:28,100 --> 00:10:29,590 and spending your time at. 293 00:10:29,590 --> 00:10:31,450 You know, that's escapism 294 00:10:31,450 --> 00:10:35,240 and I think that so often the reason 295 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:37,540 we're not reaching our goals in this day 296 00:10:37,540 --> 00:10:39,570 for many people is they're allowing themselves 297 00:10:39,570 --> 00:10:42,260 to be distracted by things they don't really care about. 298 00:10:42,260 --> 00:10:43,450 If you were to say 299 00:10:43,450 --> 00:10:45,530 okay, would you rather know 300 00:10:45,530 --> 00:10:48,610 would you rather know the moment 301 00:10:48,610 --> 00:10:51,010 that this thing happens in sports 302 00:10:51,010 --> 00:10:52,930 or the moment you're, whatever 303 00:10:52,930 --> 00:10:54,686 whatever game it is you just 304 00:10:54,686 --> 00:10:56,670 I don't know, whatever game it is 305 00:10:56,670 --> 00:10:58,820 would you rather know those things 306 00:10:58,820 --> 00:11:00,170 the moment it happened 307 00:11:00,170 --> 00:11:01,670 every single hour of the day 308 00:11:01,670 --> 00:11:03,100 or would you rather reach this goal? 309 00:11:03,100 --> 00:11:05,130 Everyone's gonna say I'd rather reach that goal. 310 00:11:05,130 --> 00:11:07,000 But they don't plan for that. 311 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:07,931 They don't plan for it 312 00:11:07,931 --> 00:11:09,238 they don't think about it strategically. 313 00:11:09,238 --> 00:11:10,071 They think, oh, it's not a big deal 314 00:11:10,071 --> 00:11:12,260 it's a few minutes here, a few minutes there. 315 00:11:12,260 --> 00:11:13,340 Start paying attention to it. 316 00:11:13,340 --> 00:11:15,593 Start logging some time and realize 317 00:11:15,593 --> 00:11:18,310 oh my goodness, I was on my phone 318 00:11:18,310 --> 00:11:21,500 doing nothing for, you know, two hours a day 319 00:11:21,500 --> 00:11:22,670 or whatever it is. 320 00:11:22,670 --> 00:11:23,880 I do a lot of work on my phone 321 00:11:23,880 --> 00:11:26,000 most of my work is on my phone 322 00:11:26,000 --> 00:11:27,725 but I hear a lot of people saying they're working 323 00:11:27,725 --> 00:11:29,820 when they're on their phone 324 00:11:29,820 --> 00:11:33,110 and they're not working all that time. 325 00:11:33,110 --> 00:11:35,440 They're not, you have to understand what that is. 326 00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:38,184 Define what is your work 327 00:11:38,184 --> 00:11:40,040 and stick to that. - And I see a lot of 328 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:42,570 people on their phones but they're confusing 329 00:11:42,570 --> 00:11:45,610 also activity with productivity. 330 00:11:45,610 --> 00:11:47,220 - Totally, it's like, what are you doing? 331 00:11:47,220 --> 00:11:50,260 Are you scrolling or are you connecting 332 00:11:50,260 --> 00:11:52,100 with people who could be your clients? 333 00:11:52,100 --> 00:11:53,775 Are you just looking at things 334 00:11:53,775 --> 00:11:55,860 or are you connecting with people 335 00:11:55,860 --> 00:11:57,498 who can open doors for you? 336 00:11:57,498 --> 00:12:00,640 You know, that's what it really comes down to. 337 00:12:00,640 --> 00:12:01,520 What are you doing? 338 00:12:01,520 --> 00:12:03,300 Are you using this as a tool 339 00:12:03,300 --> 00:12:05,810 or are you allowing it to use you? 340 00:12:05,810 --> 00:12:08,610 And I would rather use things as a tool 341 00:12:08,610 --> 00:12:10,305 so when you talk about distractions 342 00:12:10,305 --> 00:12:12,960 I've put some things in place so that 343 00:12:12,960 --> 00:12:17,430 I can't be distracted unless I choose to. 344 00:12:17,430 --> 00:12:18,800 I need to go there and check it 345 00:12:18,800 --> 00:12:21,669 but I do not have anything that will 346 00:12:21,669 --> 00:12:25,680 take my time, that will take me away from the moment I'm in 347 00:12:25,680 --> 00:12:28,523 just because I know that about myself. 348 00:12:28,523 --> 00:12:29,360 - You know, it's so funny. 349 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:32,262 Since the world of cell phones came around 350 00:12:32,262 --> 00:12:34,340 nobody is in the moment anymore 351 00:12:34,340 --> 00:12:35,610 have you noticed that? 352 00:12:35,610 --> 00:12:38,020 - Absolutely, a lot of times that's 353 00:12:38,020 --> 00:12:40,890 you know, and I find myself doing that often 354 00:12:40,890 --> 00:12:43,140 where a great thing's happening in front of me 355 00:12:43,140 --> 00:12:44,678 and I go, oh, I better do a video 356 00:12:44,678 --> 00:12:45,511 and then I think, what am I 357 00:12:45,511 --> 00:12:47,104 I can watch someone's else's video. 358 00:12:47,104 --> 00:12:48,640 I can watch someone else's video. 359 00:12:48,640 --> 00:12:51,487 I could just watch this and I could just experience it 360 00:12:51,487 --> 00:12:53,177 and I could just be in that moment. 361 00:12:53,177 --> 00:12:56,220 - I think that people are really missing out on life 362 00:12:56,220 --> 00:12:59,150 because when you're behind the lens 363 00:12:59,150 --> 00:13:01,011 you're not really experiencing it. 364 00:13:01,011 --> 00:13:03,860 - Yeah, yeah I completely agree with you. 365 00:13:03,860 --> 00:13:06,120 But at the end of the day it comes down to this. 366 00:13:06,120 --> 00:13:08,000 Like I just said this earlier but are you 367 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:11,253 using your phone as a tool, or is the tool using you? 368 00:13:12,520 --> 00:13:14,600 'Cause everything on this phone 369 00:13:14,600 --> 00:13:16,200 this is a business here 370 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:19,020 and every app wants you to be on there 371 00:13:19,020 --> 00:13:21,130 and most apps run with advertising 372 00:13:21,130 --> 00:13:23,210 that's how most apps make their money. 373 00:13:23,210 --> 00:13:26,050 They want you to be on there as often as possible. 374 00:13:26,050 --> 00:13:28,690 That's why the notifications happen 375 00:13:28,690 --> 00:13:30,050 that's why all that happens. 376 00:13:30,050 --> 00:13:31,660 You need to understand that you are 377 00:13:31,660 --> 00:13:34,950 being used in their machine. 378 00:13:34,950 --> 00:13:36,670 Now are you being used or 379 00:13:36,670 --> 00:13:38,810 are you using it to your advantage? 380 00:13:38,810 --> 00:13:41,013 And that's what we need to be aware of. 381 00:13:42,370 --> 00:13:43,900 I don't think there's any right or wrong 382 00:13:43,900 --> 00:13:45,930 because sometimes I'm at a place 383 00:13:45,930 --> 00:13:49,740 and I am doing videos, I am doing that kinda thing 384 00:13:49,740 --> 00:13:51,640 and I'm doing that because I want 385 00:13:51,640 --> 00:13:53,630 to connect with my community. 386 00:13:53,630 --> 00:13:54,910 I wanna connect with my community 387 00:13:54,910 --> 00:13:56,946 I wanna show them, here, this is what's going on 388 00:13:56,946 --> 00:14:01,090 and a lot of it is, I'm using it as a tool 389 00:14:01,090 --> 00:14:03,270 but when you start to get in that spot where you go 390 00:14:03,270 --> 00:14:05,153 oh, I need to do this, I have to do this 391 00:14:05,153 --> 00:14:07,650 I better do this, I better make this video 392 00:14:07,650 --> 00:14:08,483 I better do this. 393 00:14:08,483 --> 00:14:11,400 Or if someone watching isn't even in business. 394 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:12,573 If you're not even in business 395 00:14:12,573 --> 00:14:14,410 if it's not fun, don't do it. 396 00:14:14,410 --> 00:14:15,900 You don't have to do anything. - Right? 397 00:14:15,900 --> 00:14:18,640 - Sometimes in business or any goal 398 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:19,770 it's not always gonna be fun. 399 00:14:19,770 --> 00:14:21,550 There's gonna be things that aren't fun 400 00:14:21,550 --> 00:14:23,680 and I hear some people say 401 00:14:23,680 --> 00:14:25,080 well you should just do things 402 00:14:25,080 --> 00:14:26,420 that you love and nothing else 403 00:14:26,420 --> 00:14:27,570 and I go, okay, well 404 00:14:27,570 --> 00:14:30,370 show me how successful you're gonna be at that 405 00:14:30,370 --> 00:14:33,470 because some mornings I don't wanna go to the gym 406 00:14:33,470 --> 00:14:35,535 but I know that my coach is gonna text me 407 00:14:35,535 --> 00:14:37,400 if I don't text him. 408 00:14:37,400 --> 00:14:40,110 If I do not text him by 6:25 saying 409 00:14:40,110 --> 00:14:42,610 I'm on my way to the gym, he's going to text me. 410 00:14:42,610 --> 00:14:44,537 I don't want to go every morning. 411 00:14:44,537 --> 00:14:45,370 - Right. - I don't wanna do it. 412 00:14:45,370 --> 00:14:47,634 - You just led me to my next question. 413 00:14:47,634 --> 00:14:51,770 How important is it to have an accountability partner 414 00:14:51,770 --> 00:14:52,690 with your goals? 415 00:14:52,690 --> 00:14:54,351 - Essential, it's essential. 416 00:14:54,351 --> 00:14:57,169 You have to have accountability outside of yourself. 417 00:14:57,169 --> 00:14:58,480 You have to have someone that you trust 418 00:14:58,480 --> 00:15:00,750 whether it's someone in your personal life 419 00:15:00,750 --> 00:15:02,210 or it's someone that you hire. 420 00:15:02,210 --> 00:15:04,443 Either way, you have to have 421 00:15:04,443 --> 00:15:06,820 someone who can keep you accountable. 422 00:15:06,820 --> 00:15:08,610 I'm a firm believer in having a coach 423 00:15:08,610 --> 00:15:10,440 someone who can guide you through this process 424 00:15:10,440 --> 00:15:13,730 because we get lost and we start going on 425 00:15:13,730 --> 00:15:15,810 all sorts of crazy paths and we start 426 00:15:15,810 --> 00:15:17,334 convincing ourself that 427 00:15:17,334 --> 00:15:19,320 you know what, I actually didn't want that. 428 00:15:19,320 --> 00:15:21,210 Now I'm gonna do this instead. 429 00:15:21,210 --> 00:15:22,840 And you need someone to say 430 00:15:22,840 --> 00:15:25,700 no, you're just moving on because you're bored. 431 00:15:25,700 --> 00:15:28,720 You're just moving on because it's not fun anymore. 432 00:15:28,720 --> 00:15:31,200 And so you gotta push through those things 433 00:15:31,200 --> 00:15:33,940 and I've found the most effective way to do that 434 00:15:33,940 --> 00:15:36,220 is to bring someone onto your team 435 00:15:36,220 --> 00:15:38,058 someone who can coach you, someone who can help you 436 00:15:38,058 --> 00:15:41,170 and someone to keep you accountable to reaching those goals. 437 00:15:41,170 --> 00:15:42,003 - Wow. 438 00:15:42,003 --> 00:15:43,160 So amazing. 439 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:46,110 So Jake, can you tell our viewing audience 440 00:15:46,110 --> 00:15:50,960 how they can reach you and get your fabulous book? 441 00:15:50,960 --> 00:15:53,428 - Absolutely, so everyone who's watching right now 442 00:15:53,428 --> 00:15:56,200 the information in this book is something that has 443 00:15:56,200 --> 00:16:00,050 meant so much to me and I just want you to have it. 444 00:16:00,050 --> 00:16:01,530 I just want you to have it so go to 445 00:16:01,530 --> 00:16:05,910 yournumberonegoal.com and you can get a free PDF copy of it 446 00:16:05,910 --> 00:16:09,265 and get the ebook version of it, get it absolutely free. 447 00:16:09,265 --> 00:16:10,590 Yournumberonegoal.com 448 00:16:10,590 --> 00:16:14,703 that's all written out, so it's not numbers or anything. 449 00:16:14,703 --> 00:16:16,650 Yournumberonegoal.com written out 450 00:16:16,650 --> 00:16:18,280 you can get a free copy. 451 00:16:18,280 --> 00:16:19,790 - Thank you Jake for being here. 452 00:16:19,790 --> 00:16:21,410 - You're welcome, my pleasure. - This was amazing. 453 00:16:21,410 --> 00:16:23,350 And I love the book. 454 00:16:23,350 --> 00:16:25,890 This has been Lea Woodford with "Between the Lines." 455 00:16:25,890 --> 00:16:27,023 Thanks for watching.