1 00:00:00,030 --> 00:00:08,330 you are miracle you are a miracle born 2 00:00:04,470 --> 00:00:12,540 whole and complete with nothing 3 00:00:08,330 --> 00:00:17,090 absolutely nothing missing and then life 4 00:00:12,540 --> 00:00:20,730 happened to you circumstances situations 5 00:00:17,090 --> 00:00:23,010 parents relatives teachers siblings and 6 00:00:20,730 --> 00:00:26,880 a whole lot of other things that happen 7 00:00:23,010 --> 00:00:28,050 that have us start to think but maybe 8 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:38,910 there's something missing 9 00:00:28,050 --> 00:00:45,840 maybe there's something incomplete it is 10 00:00:38,910 --> 00:00:49,230 my belief that each one there isn't 11 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:51,360 another one of you on the planet and no 12 00:00:49,230 --> 00:00:54,160 one has the right is the right to tell 13 00:00:51,360 --> 00:00:59,220 you feel less and less 14 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:59,220 [Music] 15 00:01:01,020 --> 00:01:06,670 my name is Dov Barron I'm the 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00:02:22,800 now I don't know the circumstances of 45 00:02:18,730 --> 00:02:22,800 your birth I have no idea 46 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:32,159 however what I do know is this 47 00:02:26,959 --> 00:02:34,620 somebody conceived you and I came a 48 00:02:32,159 --> 00:02:39,569 particular point in time when you were 49 00:02:34,620 --> 00:02:43,500 ready to enter the this world you by 50 00:02:39,569 --> 00:02:45,599 whatever means were birthed but what I 51 00:02:43,500 --> 00:02:50,459 believe with all of my heart with every 52 00:02:45,599 --> 00:02:56,060 ounce of my being is that on the day you 53 00:02:50,459 --> 00:02:59,519 were born someone held you in their arms 54 00:02:56,060 --> 00:03:01,200 you know baby just fits in the length of 55 00:02:59,519 --> 00:03:04,319 your arm and you can sort of hold the 56 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:06,930 head and their feet or just the crux of 57 00:03:04,319 --> 00:03:12,590 your elbow somebody held you in their 58 00:03:06,930 --> 00:03:17,700 arms and told you or thought about you 59 00:03:12,590 --> 00:03:21,840 about how you are a miracle you are a 60 00:03:17,700 --> 00:03:25,189 miracle balled whole and complete with 61 00:03:21,840 --> 00:03:27,870 nothing absolutely nothing missing 62 00:03:25,189 --> 00:03:31,079 nothing could be missing you will 63 00:03:27,870 --> 00:03:33,150 complete you were miraculous in fact 64 00:03:31,079 --> 00:03:35,489 even if you were born with an appendage 65 00:03:33,150 --> 00:03:39,169 or something else missing you were seen 66 00:03:35,489 --> 00:03:42,870 as whole and complete and totally 67 00:03:39,169 --> 00:03:47,099 amazing and in that moment it is my 68 00:03:42,870 --> 00:03:50,400 belief that in your own heart in your 69 00:03:47,099 --> 00:03:55,349 own soul you felt you knew that you were 70 00:03:50,400 --> 00:04:00,449 indeed complete and then life happened 71 00:03:55,349 --> 00:04:04,079 to you circumstances situations parents 72 00:04:00,449 --> 00:04:06,569 relatives teachers siblings and a lot of 73 00:04:04,079 --> 00:04:09,569 other things that happen that have us 74 00:04:06,569 --> 00:04:10,409 start to think but maybe there's 75 00:04:09,569 --> 00:04:14,729 something missing 76 00:04:10,409 --> 00:04:16,650 maybe there's something incomplete and 77 00:04:14,729 --> 00:04:18,900 that kind of thing plays in our heads 78 00:04:16,650 --> 00:04:20,940 day after day week after week month 79 00:04:18,900 --> 00:04:23,490 after month year after year and it's 80 00:04:20,940 --> 00:04:24,720 reinforced by a media that tells you 81 00:04:23,490 --> 00:04:25,889 you're not quite pretty enough you're 82 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:27,780 not quite handsome enough you're not 83 00:04:25,889 --> 00:04:29,970 quite tall enough you may be too tall 84 00:04:27,780 --> 00:04:33,210 you're you're too fat you're too thin 85 00:04:29,970 --> 00:04:36,360 you're not academic enough those things 86 00:04:33,210 --> 00:04:36,940 missing about you in some way shape or 87 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:40,660 form 88 00:04:36,940 --> 00:04:42,820 and so it becomes the the loud noise 89 00:04:40,660 --> 00:04:45,310 inside of your head that somehow you're 90 00:04:42,820 --> 00:04:48,190 incomplete that somehow something is 91 00:04:45,310 --> 00:04:51,700 missing and if you only knew what it was 92 00:04:48,190 --> 00:04:53,560 then you could become whole and become 93 00:04:51,700 --> 00:04:56,440 complete and you would be okay and you 94 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:58,420 would get the memo that everybody else 95 00:04:56,440 --> 00:04:59,620 who you see all the time you look at 96 00:04:58,420 --> 00:05:03,190 these people and you wonder you know how 97 00:04:59,620 --> 00:05:05,650 do they do it how are they so amazing 98 00:05:03,190 --> 00:05:09,570 how are they so miraculous how are they 99 00:05:05,650 --> 00:05:14,760 so great how are they so powerful 100 00:05:09,570 --> 00:05:17,290 insightful beautiful wealthy and I'm not 101 00:05:14,760 --> 00:05:20,190 that's the kind of rhetoric we have 102 00:05:17,290 --> 00:05:20,190 inside of our heads 103 00:05:20,430 --> 00:05:29,040 because that little voice that was there 104 00:05:25,420 --> 00:05:32,770 on day one that said you a whole and 105 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:38,670 complete and missing nothing has gotten 106 00:05:32,770 --> 00:05:42,420 grounded out by a society that needs you 107 00:05:38,670 --> 00:05:45,550 to be fearful I mean think about it if 108 00:05:42,420 --> 00:05:48,610 you just imagine for a moment that you 109 00:05:45,550 --> 00:05:51,280 got up this morning anyway wow what a 110 00:05:48,610 --> 00:05:53,140 beautiful day and you went out for a 111 00:05:51,280 --> 00:05:55,990 walk and a place may be just like the 112 00:05:53,140 --> 00:05:58,810 one that I'm in right now with all the 113 00:05:55,990 --> 00:06:00,550 beautiful water and the greenery and you 114 00:05:58,810 --> 00:06:02,890 know wherever you are that it's just 115 00:06:00,550 --> 00:06:05,070 beautiful you mentioned that you woke up 116 00:06:02,890 --> 00:06:08,200 and you went out into that environment 117 00:06:05,070 --> 00:06:14,080 okay now imagine as you went out into 118 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:18,370 that environment through a feeling so 119 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:21,550 that ease so that in a place a state of 120 00:06:18,370 --> 00:06:23,560 grace and elegance and gratitude and wow 121 00:06:21,550 --> 00:06:26,379 you just felt like your life was so on 122 00:06:23,560 --> 00:06:29,560 track and you feel so peaceful can you 123 00:06:26,379 --> 00:06:32,879 imagine that and in that moment I said 124 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:35,620 you is anything missing out of your life 125 00:06:32,879 --> 00:06:38,379 in this very moment is there anything 126 00:06:35,620 --> 00:06:43,719 missing out of your life and you'd say 127 00:06:38,379 --> 00:06:48,190 no and then I whip out my phone I show 128 00:06:43,719 --> 00:06:51,310 you NBC news I show you fox news I show 129 00:06:48,190 --> 00:06:53,949 you CNN I show you the news channels the 130 00:06:51,310 --> 00:06:56,409 BBC or whatever is that is the news 131 00:06:53,949 --> 00:06:59,440 channel and I say now just do me a favor 132 00:06:56,409 --> 00:07:03,900 and watch that for 30 minutes 20 minutes 133 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:07,330 10 minutes just watch it for 10 minutes 134 00:07:03,900 --> 00:07:10,449 okay and I get you to watch it for 10 135 00:07:07,330 --> 00:07:12,189 minutes at the end of that 10 minutes 136 00:07:10,449 --> 00:07:13,719 we're in the same place we're still 137 00:07:12,189 --> 00:07:15,639 standing in that beautiful place in 138 00:07:13,719 --> 00:07:19,259 nature where 10 minutes ago you were 139 00:07:15,639 --> 00:07:21,669 feeling peaceful whole complete and 140 00:07:19,259 --> 00:07:24,039 grateful and I say to you how do you 141 00:07:21,669 --> 00:07:25,750 feel now after 10 minutes and our media 142 00:07:24,039 --> 00:07:27,669 and you go well you know maybe I'm 143 00:07:25,750 --> 00:07:32,560 thinking you might not have the same 144 00:07:27,669 --> 00:07:36,789 answer and then I say to you is there 145 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:38,050 anything to be afraid of I say to you is 146 00:07:36,789 --> 00:07:40,360 there anything to be afraid of in this 147 00:07:38,050 --> 00:07:42,129 moment is there anything missing in you 148 00:07:40,360 --> 00:07:44,259 in this moment is there anything 149 00:07:42,129 --> 00:07:47,409 incomplete with you in the moment and 150 00:07:44,259 --> 00:07:50,440 you would likely feel like there was so 151 00:07:47,409 --> 00:07:53,560 what changed the only thing that changed 152 00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:56,889 was that I gave you the media input 153 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:59,289 about the world that you live in versus 154 00:07:56,889 --> 00:08:00,819 the world that you were experiencing so 155 00:07:59,289 --> 00:08:03,669 get that for a minute okay 156 00:08:00,819 --> 00:08:05,500 let that sort of soak in now what I want 157 00:08:03,669 --> 00:08:09,099 you to do is to take that same analogy 158 00:08:05,500 --> 00:08:12,610 and put it back on yourself you came 159 00:08:09,099 --> 00:08:17,710 into the world whole complete peaceful 160 00:08:12,610 --> 00:08:20,379 I'm here nothing was missing and then 161 00:08:17,710 --> 00:08:22,120 the media in the context of you being 162 00:08:20,379 --> 00:08:24,550 born into the world is the environment 163 00:08:22,120 --> 00:08:26,529 is everything that surrounds you tells 164 00:08:24,550 --> 00:08:27,319 you what's missing tells you all the 165 00:08:26,529 --> 00:08:30,529 things that are 166 00:08:27,319 --> 00:08:32,599 incomplete in some way and you begin to 167 00:08:30,529 --> 00:08:34,370 doubt yourself you begin to compare 168 00:08:32,599 --> 00:08:35,599 yourself you see in that moment of 169 00:08:34,370 --> 00:08:37,310 walking in nature 170 00:08:35,599 --> 00:08:39,409 you weren't comparing yourself to 171 00:08:37,310 --> 00:08:41,329 anybody else or anything else in that 172 00:08:39,409 --> 00:08:43,159 moment of being born and feeling whole 173 00:08:41,329 --> 00:08:46,610 and complete you're not comparing 174 00:08:43,159 --> 00:08:48,009 yourself to anything else or anyone else 175 00:08:46,610 --> 00:08:51,680 you're just feeling whole and complete 176 00:08:48,009 --> 00:08:53,720 so the distinction is that you were 177 00:08:51,680 --> 00:08:55,910 being compared to or your environment 178 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:58,399 was being compared to or you will be 179 00:08:55,910 --> 00:09:02,329 giving another perspective that was not 180 00:08:58,399 --> 00:09:06,050 contextual with who you are you were 181 00:09:02,329 --> 00:09:09,199 born whole and complete it never went 182 00:09:06,050 --> 00:09:12,079 away their other voice that sits in the 183 00:09:09,199 --> 00:09:14,779 background has never gone away the one 184 00:09:12,079 --> 00:09:17,959 that said you're whole you're completely 185 00:09:14,779 --> 00:09:20,870 you're magnificent and I know you forget 186 00:09:17,959 --> 00:09:24,860 it I forget it I forget it all the time 187 00:09:20,870 --> 00:09:27,620 I forget it about myself I forget it 188 00:09:24,860 --> 00:09:32,470 about others but I have to remind myself 189 00:09:27,620 --> 00:09:38,050 that that voice will hold the complete 190 00:09:32,470 --> 00:09:40,089 that's the truth that's the truth 191 00:09:38,050 --> 00:09:42,309 now you might go well this is a nice 192 00:09:40,089 --> 00:09:47,439 Theory dove but how do you know that how 193 00:09:42,309 --> 00:09:52,600 do you actually know that I know that 194 00:09:47,439 --> 00:09:55,029 because I've been desperate I've talked 195 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:57,220 about this on other shows where I have 196 00:09:55,029 --> 00:09:59,079 been depressed darkly depressed I've 197 00:09:57,220 --> 00:10:00,910 suffered with severe anxiety severe 198 00:09:59,079 --> 00:10:03,040 depression all those kinds of things I 199 00:10:00,910 --> 00:10:07,119 went through a lot of that particularly 200 00:10:03,040 --> 00:10:11,619 in my early 20s and early 30s it was a 201 00:10:07,119 --> 00:10:12,999 very difficult and even in those darkest 202 00:10:11,619 --> 00:10:17,129 darkest moments when I felt like I 203 00:10:12,999 --> 00:10:19,749 couldn't quite grasp anything that was 204 00:10:17,129 --> 00:10:24,939 better than the shitty things I was 205 00:10:19,749 --> 00:10:28,110 feeling at that time I think that 206 00:10:24,939 --> 00:10:31,360 somewhere within me somewhere within you 207 00:10:28,110 --> 00:10:34,199 there was this sense of knowing there's 208 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:36,610 something better in the quiet moments 209 00:10:34,199 --> 00:10:42,939 you've had the experience where you feel 210 00:10:36,610 --> 00:10:44,949 like there's greatness within you even 211 00:10:42,939 --> 00:10:48,069 the most humble of us even the most 212 00:10:44,949 --> 00:10:50,709 downtrodden of us know that there's 213 00:10:48,069 --> 00:10:54,369 something greater within us that there 214 00:10:50,709 --> 00:10:56,709 is this deep greatness that sits and 215 00:10:54,369 --> 00:10:59,379 waits and sleeps dormant ly within us 216 00:10:56,709 --> 00:11:02,139 but it is always there that greatness is 217 00:10:59,379 --> 00:11:03,910 always within you but the problem is 218 00:11:02,139 --> 00:11:06,459 with all the conditioning and and the 219 00:11:03,910 --> 00:11:09,369 social environment and all those kinds 220 00:11:06,459 --> 00:11:12,999 of things we reach things happen and we 221 00:11:09,369 --> 00:11:14,949 start to feel broken we start to feel 222 00:11:12,999 --> 00:11:16,899 like somehow was something missing we're 223 00:11:14,949 --> 00:11:19,230 broken and we need to be fixed but I 224 00:11:16,899 --> 00:11:23,410 want you to know you're not broken and 225 00:11:19,230 --> 00:11:24,669 and by the way even if you were let's 226 00:11:23,410 --> 00:11:27,009 just go to that from it let's say you 227 00:11:24,669 --> 00:11:29,199 were broken let's take it literally for 228 00:11:27,009 --> 00:11:31,449 a moment for those of you who have a 229 00:11:29,199 --> 00:11:33,249 background in metalwork or maybe did it 230 00:11:31,449 --> 00:11:34,929 at high school or maybe you actually I 231 00:11:33,249 --> 00:11:38,949 did it in a career at some point in time 232 00:11:34,929 --> 00:11:40,360 you might have learned welding and in 233 00:11:38,949 --> 00:11:42,040 welding what you do is you take two 234 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:43,989 pieces of metal and you weld them 235 00:11:42,040 --> 00:11:45,579 together with heat now here's the 236 00:11:43,989 --> 00:11:48,490 question I have for you is that the 237 00:11:45,579 --> 00:11:50,319 weakest point in the metal because now 238 00:11:48,490 --> 00:11:50,769 you've got two very strong pieces of 239 00:11:50,319 --> 00:11:53,550 metal and you 240 00:11:50,769 --> 00:11:56,079 got this this place where they join is 241 00:11:53,550 --> 00:11:58,360 that the strongest or the weakest point 242 00:11:56,079 --> 00:12:00,550 the fact of the matter is it's now the 243 00:11:58,360 --> 00:12:04,889 strongest point now let me put that to 244 00:12:00,550 --> 00:12:09,040 you in another context think about this 245 00:12:04,889 --> 00:12:12,519 an arm right oblate you imagine you 246 00:12:09,040 --> 00:12:14,049 break your arm now imagine that you 247 00:12:12,519 --> 00:12:15,339 break your arm you go to the hospital 248 00:12:14,049 --> 00:12:16,749 they do the x-rays you look at the 249 00:12:15,339 --> 00:12:18,730 x-rays and you can see there's a 250 00:12:16,749 --> 00:12:23,739 fracture in there where the bone is 251 00:12:18,730 --> 00:12:27,129 broken now they put the they do what it 252 00:12:23,739 --> 00:12:29,949 takes to to mend the bone to allow it to 253 00:12:27,129 --> 00:12:33,160 heal and we go back and we x-ray you 254 00:12:29,949 --> 00:12:35,980 again six 12 months later in exactly 255 00:12:33,160 --> 00:12:39,399 that same spot that was broken do you 256 00:12:35,980 --> 00:12:44,220 know what's happened the strongest part 257 00:12:39,399 --> 00:12:47,379 of that bone is now where the break was 258 00:12:44,220 --> 00:12:49,569 so even if you were broken the place you 259 00:12:47,379 --> 00:12:53,199 got broken has not made you weaker it 260 00:12:49,569 --> 00:12:55,929 has made you stronger and you might say 261 00:12:53,199 --> 00:12:57,660 well I've got ten thousand breaks some 262 00:12:55,929 --> 00:13:00,279 of them emotional psychological 263 00:12:57,660 --> 00:13:03,160 spiritual as well as physical I 264 00:13:00,279 --> 00:13:06,100 understand we've all had those we've all 265 00:13:03,160 --> 00:13:07,509 experienced the breaks that tell us that 266 00:13:06,100 --> 00:13:09,459 we're broken and we're never gonna be 267 00:13:07,509 --> 00:13:11,799 complete again but each one of those 268 00:13:09,459 --> 00:13:14,829 breaks gives you the opportunity to come 269 00:13:11,799 --> 00:13:17,319 back stronger not weaker I want you to 270 00:13:14,829 --> 00:13:20,679 imagine a person who was born into a 271 00:13:17,319 --> 00:13:22,209 perfect life when mum and dad loved them 272 00:13:20,679 --> 00:13:25,179 and they had these siblings who were 273 00:13:22,209 --> 00:13:28,029 marvelous and wonderful and the family 274 00:13:25,179 --> 00:13:29,259 was perfect in every possible way now 275 00:13:28,029 --> 00:13:30,850 I'm gonna put you out in the world 276 00:13:29,259 --> 00:13:32,679 you're that kid who's now growing up and 277 00:13:30,850 --> 00:13:36,999 I put you out in the world how you gonna 278 00:13:32,679 --> 00:13:38,919 do maybe they eat no live man you're 279 00:13:36,999 --> 00:13:41,860 gonna get in total overwhelmed with the 280 00:13:38,919 --> 00:13:45,399 media with the impressions of other 281 00:13:41,860 --> 00:13:47,949 people and how they feel about you it's 282 00:13:45,399 --> 00:13:49,869 not true but if you've grown up in a 283 00:13:47,949 --> 00:13:51,910 perfect environment and you go out into 284 00:13:49,869 --> 00:13:54,040 the world you're gonna get just 285 00:13:51,910 --> 00:13:55,569 Bambaataa it's gonna be too much now I 286 00:13:54,040 --> 00:13:57,040 know that you've been through tough 287 00:13:55,569 --> 00:13:58,990 stuff I know that you've struggled in 288 00:13:57,040 --> 00:13:59,780 all kinds of ways and what I want you to 289 00:13:58,990 --> 00:14:02,660 understand is 290 00:13:59,780 --> 00:14:03,950 those breaks those things that made you 291 00:14:02,660 --> 00:14:05,120 feel like you couldn't get up and you 292 00:14:03,950 --> 00:14:06,620 weren't gonna make it those are the 293 00:14:05,120 --> 00:14:08,090 things that have made you strong because 294 00:14:06,620 --> 00:14:11,810 now when you go out into the world and 295 00:14:08,090 --> 00:14:12,740 they reject you yeah it hurts but I'll 296 00:14:11,810 --> 00:14:14,450 tell you something it doesn't hurt 297 00:14:12,740 --> 00:14:17,420 anywhere near as much as if you've never 298 00:14:14,450 --> 00:14:21,950 experienced any of that that which broke 299 00:14:17,420 --> 00:14:25,160 you didn't finish you 300 00:14:21,950 --> 00:14:31,540 it's the beginning it's the start you 301 00:14:25,160 --> 00:14:31,540 did not get your dreams by accident 302 00:14:31,730 --> 00:14:36,529 that deep greatness within you that sits 303 00:14:34,519 --> 00:14:38,800 and waits 304 00:14:36,529 --> 00:14:41,350 it's always been there 305 00:14:38,800 --> 00:14:43,989 and it's the part that's quietly in the 306 00:14:41,350 --> 00:14:46,689 background like that voice that told you 307 00:14:43,989 --> 00:14:49,980 a whole and complete like that person 308 00:14:46,689 --> 00:14:49,980 who held you in the moment you were born 309 00:14:51,220 --> 00:14:58,480 that little voice that is your hopes and 310 00:14:54,639 --> 00:15:01,029 your dreams never went away you did not 311 00:14:58,480 --> 00:15:05,290 get your hopes and dreams by accident 312 00:15:01,029 --> 00:15:08,230 they are your heart and your soul crying 313 00:15:05,290 --> 00:15:11,680 out for expression for the expression 314 00:15:08,230 --> 00:15:16,269 for the experience of your wholeness to 315 00:15:11,680 --> 00:15:18,970 be brought to the world and I know you 316 00:15:16,269 --> 00:15:25,470 forget that your whole and complete I've 317 00:15:18,970 --> 00:15:28,720 done it too yesterday I had packed day 318 00:15:25,470 --> 00:15:32,139 enjoying that packed day I had a couple 319 00:15:28,720 --> 00:15:36,730 of conversations with people who are 320 00:15:32,139 --> 00:15:41,980 good friends and mentors to me people I 321 00:15:36,730 --> 00:15:46,990 have just a ton of respect for people 322 00:15:41,980 --> 00:15:48,879 who I look up and admire and and I was 323 00:15:46,990 --> 00:15:50,949 thinking at the end of one of those 324 00:15:48,879 --> 00:15:53,350 conversations you know I am just so 325 00:15:50,949 --> 00:15:53,769 blessed whatever I think is missing in 326 00:15:53,350 --> 00:15:56,170 my life 327 00:15:53,769 --> 00:15:57,250 look at how complete is in this 328 00:15:56,170 --> 00:16:00,699 conversation 329 00:15:57,250 --> 00:16:03,279 how honoring this person is how 330 00:16:00,699 --> 00:16:06,029 supportive they are and again I 331 00:16:03,279 --> 00:16:09,759 remembered that magnificence that beauty 332 00:16:06,029 --> 00:16:11,559 but did it get in well I had the second 333 00:16:09,759 --> 00:16:13,839 conversation I was talking to another 334 00:16:11,559 --> 00:16:17,620 one of my friends guy you've probably 335 00:16:13,839 --> 00:16:21,250 seen on here Tony grab Maya an amazing 336 00:16:17,620 --> 00:16:25,629 man a dear dear friend who done amazing 337 00:16:21,250 --> 00:16:27,870 things and Tony and I were chatting and 338 00:16:25,629 --> 00:16:31,540 we're talking about when we first met 339 00:16:27,870 --> 00:16:32,829 and he was telling me that you know he 340 00:16:31,540 --> 00:16:35,379 was supposed to be on the show but he 341 00:16:32,829 --> 00:16:37,120 kind of mixed things up and was a little 342 00:16:35,379 --> 00:16:39,699 late and thought he was gonna get his 343 00:16:37,120 --> 00:16:40,839 ass kicked by me cuz I got you know I've 344 00:16:39,699 --> 00:16:42,970 got to seem to have all my things 345 00:16:40,839 --> 00:16:46,180 organized or whatever it is with my show 346 00:16:42,970 --> 00:16:48,759 and etc and he was gonna be a guest on 347 00:16:46,180 --> 00:16:50,350 the show and he's gonna be late and and 348 00:16:48,759 --> 00:16:52,059 I said why would you feel like that and 349 00:16:50,350 --> 00:16:54,070 he says because we'd had this previous 350 00:16:52,059 --> 00:16:56,410 conversation 351 00:16:54,070 --> 00:17:01,389 and he said something to me and kind of 352 00:16:56,410 --> 00:17:04,110 I feel a little weird saying it I do 353 00:17:01,389 --> 00:17:06,100 honestly and that's probably why it 354 00:17:04,110 --> 00:17:09,850 initially when he said it hit the 355 00:17:06,100 --> 00:17:12,910 plexiglass and sort of bounced stuff but 356 00:17:09,850 --> 00:17:14,890 it's soaked in and he said he said I 357 00:17:12,910 --> 00:17:19,059 when I met you I felt like I was in the 358 00:17:14,890 --> 00:17:21,309 presence of greatness okay I getting 359 00:17:19,059 --> 00:17:24,720 choked right now sorry he said I felt 360 00:17:21,309 --> 00:17:24,720 like I was in the presence of greatness 361 00:17:25,199 --> 00:17:31,240 we all have shitty times we all feel low 362 00:17:29,140 --> 00:17:33,100 even those people you look at and think 363 00:17:31,240 --> 00:17:36,220 you're in the presence of greatness we 364 00:17:33,100 --> 00:17:38,049 all have that but we also all need to 365 00:17:36,220 --> 00:17:41,470 remember that greatness is we're gonna 366 00:17:38,049 --> 00:17:43,570 it is the deep greatness not the surface 367 00:17:41,470 --> 00:17:46,210 greatness that you got from your 368 00:17:43,570 --> 00:17:48,400 accolades your successes your PhDs or 369 00:17:46,210 --> 00:17:52,140 whatever it was or even from all the 370 00:17:48,400 --> 00:17:55,179 pets on the back but your deep greatness 371 00:17:52,140 --> 00:17:59,799 that's always been there that is your 372 00:17:55,179 --> 00:18:02,500 soul crying out for expression if you 373 00:17:59,799 --> 00:18:04,770 really want to tap into that you really 374 00:18:02,500 --> 00:18:09,190 want to find your way into that deep 375 00:18:04,770 --> 00:18:11,740 deep greatness you will have to remember 376 00:18:09,190 --> 00:18:14,080 that you're already whole you're already 377 00:18:11,740 --> 00:18:18,100 complete if you want to tap into that 378 00:18:14,080 --> 00:18:21,610 deep deep greatness within you I'm gonna 379 00:18:18,100 --> 00:18:25,040 give you one simple way to do it start 380 00:18:21,610 --> 00:18:27,830 seeing it in others 381 00:18:25,040 --> 00:18:31,820 you see when we look at other people and 382 00:18:27,830 --> 00:18:34,400 we see the greatness in them remember 383 00:18:31,820 --> 00:18:35,870 the couple of things number one they 384 00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:38,000 might have forgotten it in themselves 385 00:18:35,870 --> 00:18:41,090 and you go no no come on it's obvious 386 00:18:38,000 --> 00:18:43,790 it's obvious that this person feels 387 00:18:41,090 --> 00:18:46,250 their own greatness but you know when 388 00:18:43,790 --> 00:18:48,680 Tony said that to me I was not feeling 389 00:18:46,250 --> 00:18:50,630 my greatness I wasn't in a shitty place 390 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:52,520 I wasn't in a bad place but I wasn't 391 00:18:50,630 --> 00:18:53,990 feeling it until he said it and like and 392 00:18:52,520 --> 00:18:57,080 when he said it like I said it hit the 393 00:18:53,990 --> 00:19:00,230 Plexiglas but 20 minutes later I was 394 00:18:57,080 --> 00:19:01,730 like oh my god I actually did send him a 395 00:19:00,230 --> 00:19:03,530 message and tell him how much I love and 396 00:19:01,730 --> 00:19:05,330 appreciate him and thanked him because 397 00:19:03,530 --> 00:19:09,650 he awakened something in me I'd 398 00:19:05,330 --> 00:19:11,750 forgotten so one of the ways for you to 399 00:19:09,650 --> 00:19:14,450 tap into your greatness that deep 400 00:19:11,750 --> 00:19:19,130 greatness within you is to first of all 401 00:19:14,450 --> 00:19:21,950 see it in others remind them that it's 402 00:19:19,130 --> 00:19:24,770 right there inside of them but on top of 403 00:19:21,950 --> 00:19:29,360 that is this you don't live in the world 404 00:19:24,770 --> 00:19:32,270 you live in the mirror the reason that 405 00:19:29,360 --> 00:19:36,320 Tony felt like he was in the presence of 406 00:19:32,270 --> 00:19:38,900 greatness is because whenever I speak to 407 00:19:36,320 --> 00:19:41,630 him I know I'm in the presence of 408 00:19:38,900 --> 00:19:46,400 greatness he is a great man with a 409 00:19:41,630 --> 00:19:48,670 massive heart great wisdom beautiful 410 00:19:46,400 --> 00:19:48,670 mind 411 00:19:48,700 --> 00:19:54,190 it's simply a reflection and if you 412 00:19:51,940 --> 00:19:56,739 can't give that to others then you can't 413 00:19:54,190 --> 00:19:59,799 see it in yourself so the way for you to 414 00:19:56,739 --> 00:20:03,609 tap into that deep greatness is to get 415 00:19:59,799 --> 00:20:06,730 out there and recognize and validate the 416 00:20:03,609 --> 00:20:08,019 deep greatness in others I want to thank 417 00:20:06,730 --> 00:20:10,899 you for joining me on the show today 418 00:20:08,019 --> 00:20:12,489 it's been a pleasure and an honor and if 419 00:20:10,899 --> 00:20:14,379 you've got a lot of this I would 420 00:20:12,489 --> 00:20:16,809 definitely ask you to share it with 421 00:20:14,379 --> 00:20:18,879 others make sure that you're helping 422 00:20:16,809 --> 00:20:21,220 other people find that deep greatness 423 00:20:18,879 --> 00:20:23,919 because we all need that we all need to 424 00:20:21,220 --> 00:20:25,299 remember that in spite of the media and 425 00:20:23,919 --> 00:20:27,639 the social conditioning that we're all 426 00:20:25,299 --> 00:20:30,210 Givens and please share the show with 427 00:20:27,639 --> 00:20:33,399 everyone you know go to Dov Baron 428 00:20:30,210 --> 00:20:35,590 leadership full monty leadership we all 429 00:20:33,399 --> 00:20:37,779 need to remember that deep greatness 430 00:20:35,590 --> 00:20:41,619 within all of us til next time this is 431 00:20:37,779 --> 00:20:44,739 Dalbir and full monty leadership comm 432 00:20:41,619 --> 00:20:48,220 saying stay curious my friend stay 433 00:20:44,739 --> 00:20:52,299 curious about the deep greatness that 434 00:20:48,220 --> 00:20:55,620 lays dormant within you see it I see you 435 00:20:52,299 --> 00:21:12,650 know this next time is dog 436 00:20:55,620 --> 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