always contained the DNA to have wings
to fly but that DNA that protein was
never fully turned on what is the DNA
what is the protein within you one is
that the molecular structure what is the
beauty that exists within you what is
the magnificence that exists within you
that's not quite switched on yet what is
that
and are you willing to let die be
ordinary the everyday in order to give
birth to your extraordinary it is my
belief that each one is unique there
isn't another one of you on the planet
and no one has the right is the right to
tell you you're less and less
hope you've got your beverage in hand
I've got mine and you're ready to go my
name is Dov Barron I'm the founder of
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the foundation of your business and
everything you're doing leadership is
based on because you cannot you cannot
outsource authenticity what I want to
talk to you about today is permission to
be great
do you give yourself permission to be
great I mean I want you think about
greatness for a minute what is the
difference between a great person and an
average person is it possible that two
siblings can be born into the same
family one goes on to do great things
and makes a massive difference in the
world and the other one fades off into
oblivion of course it's possible you
know it's possible so why does it happen
why to two people seemingly from a very
similar environment one of them becomes
great and the other one becomes quite
ordinary what is the difference between
ordinary and extraordinary I was having
a conversation with a very dear friend
of mine somebody I have in tons of
respect for his name is marc levy marc
levy is the author of the accidental
genius and he is by all accounts quite
the genius there's a dear friend and an
amazing human being with a with a
spectacular mind and we're having a
conversation about favorite movies and
we started to talk about a movie that
was a favorite of mine from many many
years ago and it featured kirk douglas
who played Vincent van Gogh and the
other guy who played go-go
it's about these two artists about
Vincent van Gogh and Paul Gauguin and
about their friendship and about how
they were artists together and we were
talking about how you know the
in the ecstasy of being this phenomenal
artisan I'm actually going to come back
to that agony and ecstasy piece in in in
the next show that I do next week but I
want to just come in on to this piece
because we were having this conversation
and Mark shared with me a quote from
Paul Gauguin when he committed fully
committed to being an artist he started
to paint fruit now if you were an artist
or if you've been an artist or even if
you've seen early Outlook I know I was
an artist it was my thing when I was a
kid I was passionate about up into my
early 20s and I just lived at slep
breathed art and one of the first things
you do is you do still live so you you
draw you paint vars and fruit and things
that don't move things that will be
pretty still for you while you do your
work and I remember always like doing
these fruits and trying to make them so
that there was this sense that you could
reach in and just grab that piece of
fruit and pour go girl made this quote
he said that he was going to astonish
Paris with an apple this is the quote
that Mark leave he shared with me that
Gauguin said I'm going to astonish Paris
with an apple what does that mean it
means that he was going to take this
very ordinary thing and actually several
ordinary things which is the ordinary
thing of the Apple itself the ordinary
thing of a canvas the ordinary thing of
paint the ordinary things of a brush or
a palette knife and he was going to to
bring it to life he was going to
astonish Paris with the vibrance with it
with the realness with the with the just
deliciousness of this Apple he was going
to astonish Paris with an apple he was
going to take something that was very
ordinary and make it extraordinary so
here's my question to you where have you
made your greatness ordinary where have
you taken what is absolutely
extraordinary gone the other way and
made it really obvious and really
pedestrian where have you made you
greatness ordinary we all know that
water boils at a hundred degrees
centigrade at a 212 Fahrenheit but what
is water at 99 degrees Celsius or 211
degrees Fahrenheit what is it then
it's not steam it becomes steam when it
hits that boiling point but what is it
before that very hot water but it
changes its entire physical
representation in the world by one
degree it is that one degree that
separates us from ordinary to
extraordinary is that one degree that
takes us from who we were to who we can
be it's one degree of separation between
ordinary and extraordinary there was an
eminent biologist
his name was Ben Heinrich and he was
fascinated with how caterpillars become
butterflies it was fascinated how they
they they come into the world as these
wiggling little worms and then they
somehow they become these creatures that
have beauty that are airborne he was
fascinated with that and he was
fascinated to say well does the
butterfly exist within the caterpillar
and he wanted to understand that you
want to understand what is what is the
difference because in fact according to
his research and his theory they are two
very different animals that the
caterpillar is one animal but the
butterfly is a completely different
animal what is it what is the difference
between those two animals what has to
happen and what he put forward was this
entire theory around reincarnation that
not from a very or a particularly
spiritual sense but from the sense of
that the caterpillar has to be willing
to die
in order for the butterfly to come into
existence the caterpillar has to be
willing to leave this world it has to be
willing to dissolve it has to be willing
to be in the cocoon and and freely give
itself over to death in order to give
birth to this magnificent beautiful
flying being what has to die in order
for you to reach your greatness what do
you have to let go of in the moment when
the caterpillar is finally rat and it's
fully in their place at that moment does
it just surrender I don't know I don't
know that any of us know but what I
wonder what I wonder is this does it
willingly die or is that that moment
where fear rushes over it
see we hold on to life in the form that
we know it we hang on with like dear
life as if as if you know if you don't
do life in the form that you're done
you've done it in that you won't exist
anymore but for the caterpillar to
become the butterfly it has to do that
it has to face that fear of annihilation
of completely dissolving into whatever
it is it possible death before it can
become the very thing that it was
actually meant to be it wasn't meant to
be a caterpillar it was meant for its
greatness in the form of a butterfly you
see the caterpillar always contained the
DNA to have wings to fly but that DNA
that protein was never fully turned on
what is the DNA what is the protein
within your one is that the molecular
structure what is the beauty that exists
within you what is the magnificence that
exists within you that's not quite
switched on yet what
is that and are you willing to let die
be ordinary the everyday in order to
give birth to your extraordinary are you
willing to let die what was in order to
have what can be are you willing to
cocoon yourself to separate yourself
from everything that's familiar and just
dissolve think about this for a moment
it's the summertime and in Vancouver we
have something called the peony and and
it's this Pacific National Exhibition
and it's a big you know it's the rides
it's the roller coasters all those
things and once he imagined that you're
about to get on a roller coaster you're
in the lineup and you're standing that
line up and you're watching as people
are in front of you and you're watching
you know you're edging closer and closer
and closer to that place where they're
gonna put you in the seat and strap you
in for the roller coaster but meanwhile
as you're waiting you're watching other
people and you can see them going up
click click click click click click
click click click click towards the top
and then that and you hear every scream
as it rolls off the top and his arms go
up in the air that moment what are those
people doing here's the question are
they in fear or are they in excitement
what is the difference
well according to science according to
biology according to neurology the only
difference between fear and excitement
is one molecule you're one molecule away
from excitement when you're in fear when
you're feeling anxiety you're you're
about to step out onto the stage and
you're your palms get sweaty your heart
starts to beat faster and all those
things start to happen what is going on
is it anxiety or is it excitement maybe
it's a mind shift maybe it's a simple
shift in your mindset between the two
places
is it anxiety or is it excitement if
it's just one molecule apart what's the
difference is it that one degree between
hot boiling water and steam is it that
one difference between ordinary and
extraordinary that's what I want to ask
you you see that deep greatness is
within you it's always been within you
but it you're not gonna get to it by
thinking that you're special
you're not special you are unique and
there's a great big difference you see
if you're special you're automatically
compared to everybody else you'll
somehow better than them or not as good
as them which is often what we're
running but the truth is you are unique
there is a particularly unique structure
to how you are in the world to how you
communicate in oil to how you do the
world how you operate in the world that
is unique about you and there is no
competition there is no one else in the
world who is even close to being you
their shades and tones but it's not the
same your greatness is already within
you but maybe you've made it ordinary
maybe you've made it pedestrian and
maybe other people can see it but you
just can't but it's time for you to step
into that greatness and the thing about
it is understanding this that your
greatness is not to be achieved outside
of you it's not something that is out
there it's not something you can get
with another degree it's not something
you can get with another accolade it's
something that already exists within you
it's already right there inside of you
it's already right here in your heart in
your soul in your being
but it's you who's got to clean it it's
not gonna come to you through another
degree it's not gonna come to you
through another something it already
exists within you it's already naturally
in there but there's a very good chance
that you have minimized it there's a
very good chance that you've made it
less then in order to profitably pacify
other people who feel maybe intimidated
by your greatness if it maybe feel
threatened by your greatness but here's
what I want you to understand about your
greatness about that silent greatness
that waits within you and it often
silently whispers while your ego screams
about how you are less then you're not
here's what I want you to really
understand about this that when you step
into that greatness when you own your
unique greatness that deep greatness
that sits within you when you fully own
that something amazing happens and that
is this your greatness is inspirational
when you think about what is inspiration
what does that actually mean to inspire
somebody well the word comes from the
Latin in spiritus means to be drunk on
spirit to be drunk on God
you inspire others with your greatness
but what are you actually inspiring them
to and the answer is actually quite
simple you are inspiring them to the
greatness within them when you play
ordinary everybody suffers when you play
ordinary other people don't get to
access their greatness I put it to you
that your greatness is a form of
permission when you spy inspire another
you give them permission to step into
their greatness you give them the
courage to own their greatness the
greatness that waits within them that is
dormant within them your greatness
you're stepping into it you're owning it
you're claiming it it awakens that
within them
it gives them permission to fully step
up and step in so here's what I want you
to know about that that I learned from
my friend
the brilliant mark levy he was asked how
do you know when you've plateaued in
your life and Mark said this he said
when he talks to somebody and they ask
him what he's doing and he feels
uninspired when he feels a twinge of
shame when he feels a twinge of boredom
at stating what he's doing right now
he knows his plateaued he knows that he
is not having the courage that he needs
to do and that pushes him to do the next
courageous thing even though he's very
comfortable doing what he's doing even
though everyone in the world that he
knows is applauding him and saying how
marvellous he is it is a brilliant he is
and he is doing those things and he is
an amazing man he is doing amazing
things but he calls to his own greatness
challenges himself to step into the
courage and do the thing that scares him
in spite of the fact that it looks good
in the world this is what I'm talking
about because when he does that then he
gives us all permission when you do that
you give us all permission see happiness
is external happiness is
is transitory but joy joy comes from
courage the courage to step into your
greatness that's where your joy comes
from so if you're bored if when you say
something that you're doing and other
people are impressed but you're really
not maybe it's time to step into your
greatness the deep greatness that waits
within you that's calling to you what
I'm suggesting to you is consider this
consider astounding Paris with an apple
consider how you've made your own
extraordinary ordinary and how here's
what I want to ask you to do stay
curious my friend stay curious about how
you can take the ordinary and make it
extraordinary
in other words astound Paris with an
apple my name is Dave Baron Full Monty
leadership calm challenging you to step
in explore and claim your own deep
greatness so next time
this is dove Baron full monty leadership
saying stay curious my friends stay
curious I am out