1 00:00:00,030 --> 00:00:05,670 human beings cannot live without hope 2 00:00:03,270 --> 00:00:10,410 we know this this is a fact we cannot 3 00:00:05,670 --> 00:00:13,320 live without hope we all need hope but 4 00:00:10,410 --> 00:00:15,509 is your hope keeping you from your deep 5 00:00:13,320 --> 00:00:18,390 greatness is it keeping you from what 6 00:00:15,509 --> 00:00:20,880 will really make you magnificent when we 7 00:00:18,390 --> 00:00:24,180 give our hope to somebody or to 8 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:26,609 something who will never fulfill it that 9 00:00:24,180 --> 00:00:29,070 disempowers us that keeps us away from 10 00:00:26,609 --> 00:00:33,349 our deep greatness it separates us from 11 00:00:29,070 --> 00:00:33,349 everything that is magnificent about us 12 00:00:44,660 --> 00:00:51,410 and no one has the right is the right to 13 00:00:47,940 --> 00:00:51,410 tell you the less than less 14 00:01:15,470 --> 00:01:21,470 welcome to another episode of deep 15 00:01:18,380 --> 00:01:24,050 greatness my name is Dalles Aaron and 16 00:01:21,470 --> 00:01:26,780 the founder of full monty leadership 17 00:01:24,050 --> 00:01:29,510 comm you can find out more about me 18 00:01:26,780 --> 00:01:31,370 right back at full monty leadership but 19 00:01:29,510 --> 00:01:33,740 we provide you with the essential 20 00:01:31,370 --> 00:01:36,880 leadership skills to take you to the top 21 00:01:33,740 --> 00:01:40,580 and keep you there because you cannot 22 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:45,290 outsource authenticity all right do 23 00:01:40,580 --> 00:01:48,110 greatness diving right in here in our 24 00:01:45,290 --> 00:01:49,760 lives there are dates there are times 25 00:01:48,110 --> 00:01:52,450 when things happen when they tend to 26 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:56,750 stick out in our mind remember the time 27 00:01:52,450 --> 00:01:59,270 when 9/11 happened most of us can 28 00:01:56,750 --> 00:02:01,490 remember where we were when that took 29 00:01:59,270 --> 00:02:03,920 place you probably remember the exact 30 00:02:01,490 --> 00:02:05,660 moment you heard about it maybe you're a 31 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:08,929 little older you can remember when JFK 32 00:02:05,660 --> 00:02:12,320 died or when Elvis died or John Lennon 33 00:02:08,929 --> 00:02:14,120 died or some other figure died when 34 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:16,580 these big events happen they create 35 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:19,970 dates in our mind that sort of get 36 00:02:16,580 --> 00:02:21,470 wedged and we they stay there and people 37 00:02:19,970 --> 00:02:23,510 leave enough conversations where were 38 00:02:21,470 --> 00:02:27,050 you when 9/11 happened where were you 39 00:02:23,510 --> 00:02:30,770 when this happened but what is it that 40 00:02:27,050 --> 00:02:33,380 actually takes place in that experience 41 00:02:30,770 --> 00:02:38,680 what is it that actually happens that 42 00:02:33,380 --> 00:02:38,680 creates that marker inside of your mind 43 00:02:39,100 --> 00:02:47,810 today for me there are no tears maybe 44 00:02:45,350 --> 00:02:51,200 there will be a little bit later as we 45 00:02:47,810 --> 00:02:56,390 record this but today as we record this 46 00:02:51,200 --> 00:03:00,890 there are no tears and I'll tell you why 47 00:02:56,390 --> 00:03:03,380 in a moment let's go back 2010 you 48 00:03:00,890 --> 00:03:06,860 remember that year not even a specific 49 00:03:03,380 --> 00:03:09,350 day but the year what was the year the 50 00:03:06,860 --> 00:03:15,470 iPad was released Apple released its 51 00:03:09,350 --> 00:03:17,840 iPad I know because my wife bought me an 52 00:03:15,470 --> 00:03:20,450 iPad and I was very excited to use it 53 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:22,880 and we were on holiday and we were down 54 00:03:20,450 --> 00:03:24,980 in the Mexican Riviera enjoying it was a 55 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:26,900 wonderful time it was a great place to 56 00:03:24,980 --> 00:03:30,590 be we were relaxing we were laying in 57 00:03:26,900 --> 00:03:32,329 sonot was beautiful but there was no 58 00:03:30,590 --> 00:03:34,939 Wi-Fi where were you were staying and 59 00:03:32,329 --> 00:03:37,610 that day that evening we went into the 60 00:03:34,939 --> 00:03:40,849 town and I knew that Starbucks would 61 00:03:37,610 --> 00:03:42,950 have Wi-Fi so I took my iPad with me so 62 00:03:40,849 --> 00:03:45,140 I could get onto my iPad at Starbucks 63 00:03:42,950 --> 00:03:47,569 and I sat down at Starbucks while my 64 00:03:45,140 --> 00:03:52,700 wife went off and did something else and 65 00:03:47,569 --> 00:03:54,829 as i sat there skipping through my iPad 66 00:03:52,700 --> 00:03:58,280 of course I went onto Facebook 67 00:03:54,829 --> 00:04:01,549 and I went to my brand new business page 68 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:03,260 which one of my staff had just set up it 69 00:04:01,549 --> 00:04:05,599 was a gun on that page I noticed all 70 00:04:03,260 --> 00:04:08,450 these mystery of comments of people 71 00:04:05,599 --> 00:04:10,159 saying how I had changed their life and 72 00:04:08,450 --> 00:04:11,599 how I had impacted them and the 73 00:04:10,159 --> 00:04:14,959 difference that I made in their lives 74 00:04:11,599 --> 00:04:16,970 and how I would change the way they saw 75 00:04:14,959 --> 00:04:18,560 the world and how it empowered them in 76 00:04:16,970 --> 00:04:20,329 all kinds of ways help them with their 77 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:22,669 relationships help them with grow their 78 00:04:20,329 --> 00:04:24,530 businesses help them to be better as a 79 00:04:22,669 --> 00:04:26,539 human being all these wonderful 80 00:04:24,530 --> 00:04:28,430 wonderful comments it was beautiful to 81 00:04:26,539 --> 00:04:29,990 see and I was quite excited to read 82 00:04:28,430 --> 00:04:34,039 those things and then as I read through 83 00:04:29,990 --> 00:04:35,690 I realized that those comments were in 84 00:04:34,039 --> 00:04:40,729 reaction to something but I didn't know 85 00:04:35,690 --> 00:04:44,960 what it was so I scrolled up a little 86 00:04:40,729 --> 00:04:49,909 bit and so that there was somebody on my 87 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:52,130 fan page who was attacking me when they 88 00:04:49,909 --> 00:04:54,380 were several attacks about what my 89 00:04:52,130 --> 00:04:56,300 character and who I was and as I 90 00:04:54,380 --> 00:04:58,250 scrolled back down towards the end that 91 00:04:56,300 --> 00:05:01,070 and reading that last comment from 92 00:04:58,250 --> 00:05:03,169 somebody saying how the person making 93 00:05:01,070 --> 00:05:04,490 the attacks probably didn't know me and 94 00:05:03,169 --> 00:05:07,039 that this person who wrote all the 95 00:05:04,490 --> 00:05:08,750 wonderful things did know me and the I'd 96 00:05:07,039 --> 00:05:15,229 had this positive impact on their life 97 00:05:08,750 --> 00:05:17,349 the following comment was this I do know 98 00:05:15,229 --> 00:05:21,889 him I know him better than all of you I 99 00:05:17,349 --> 00:05:25,690 should have drowned him at birth that 100 00:05:21,889 --> 00:05:25,690 comment was posted by my father 101 00:05:26,969 --> 00:05:36,899 I read it and got stunned at first I 102 00:05:33,449 --> 00:05:41,399 wasn't even upset I was stunned for a 103 00:05:36,899 --> 00:05:44,009 few seconds and a couple of minutes 104 00:05:41,399 --> 00:05:47,039 later my wife came by and she said 105 00:05:44,009 --> 00:05:49,259 what's going on and I said I'll tell you 106 00:05:47,039 --> 00:05:50,999 in a bit and we walked towards this 107 00:05:49,259 --> 00:05:54,179 place where we were gonna get transport 108 00:05:50,999 --> 00:05:58,769 back to the hotel and as I stood there I 109 00:05:54,179 --> 00:06:01,379 began to just break down and cry and my 110 00:05:58,769 --> 00:06:03,329 wife was of course concerned and she 111 00:06:01,379 --> 00:06:07,409 asked me what was going on and I had 112 00:06:03,329 --> 00:06:10,469 told her that my father my father had 113 00:06:07,409 --> 00:06:15,989 posted on my fanpage that he should have 114 00:06:10,469 --> 00:06:20,309 drowned me at birth we got on our 115 00:06:15,989 --> 00:06:24,659 transport I leaned on her and I wept and 116 00:06:20,309 --> 00:06:27,809 she held me and she was amazing and the 117 00:06:24,659 --> 00:06:31,860 only thing I could say over and over 118 00:06:27,809 --> 00:06:33,239 again was why why would he do that it 119 00:06:31,860 --> 00:06:36,149 was the only thing that I could think 120 00:06:33,239 --> 00:06:38,159 why would anybody do that now I'll tell 121 00:06:36,149 --> 00:06:40,529 you that I hadn't spoken to my father 122 00:06:38,159 --> 00:06:43,289 for about five years before that I had 123 00:06:40,529 --> 00:06:45,569 removed him from my life but I hadn't 124 00:06:43,289 --> 00:06:47,699 done it viciously or meanly I just you 125 00:06:45,569 --> 00:06:49,709 know he was very unhealthy very 126 00:06:47,699 --> 00:06:51,149 dysfunctional and it was just the only 127 00:06:49,709 --> 00:06:52,829 thing that made sense was to remove 128 00:06:51,149 --> 00:06:55,889 somebody unhealthy from my life and 129 00:06:52,829 --> 00:06:58,919 that's exactly what I did I moved my 130 00:06:55,889 --> 00:07:02,939 father from my life and here we are five 131 00:06:58,919 --> 00:07:04,289 years later it's now 2010 and he's 132 00:07:02,939 --> 00:07:07,679 telling people he should have drowned me 133 00:07:04,289 --> 00:07:12,079 at birth I just kept asking why would he 134 00:07:07,679 --> 00:07:12,079 do that I didn't understand 135 00:07:12,160 --> 00:07:17,970 why would any father say those kinds of 136 00:07:14,800 --> 00:07:17,970 things about their child 137 00:07:18,810 --> 00:07:28,060 it was baffling I wept and I wept and I 138 00:07:23,860 --> 00:07:32,320 wept and suddenly my wife being the wise 139 00:07:28,060 --> 00:07:36,910 woman that she is said you know this is 140 00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:40,180 evidence and I said of what and she said 141 00:07:36,910 --> 00:07:43,090 that you made the right decision I made 142 00:07:40,180 --> 00:07:44,590 the right decision about what to remove 143 00:07:43,090 --> 00:07:47,110 this person from your life 144 00:07:44,590 --> 00:07:48,670 she said you made the right decision to 145 00:07:47,110 --> 00:07:50,530 remove your father from your life 146 00:07:48,670 --> 00:07:54,850 clearly this is a very dysfunctional 147 00:07:50,530 --> 00:07:57,070 person and again I said I get that but I 148 00:07:54,850 --> 00:07:59,860 don't know why I just needed to 149 00:07:57,070 --> 00:08:05,290 understand why would a father write that 150 00:07:59,860 --> 00:08:11,620 about his son I didn't understand when 151 00:08:05,290 --> 00:08:15,850 she said why wouldn't he there's an old 152 00:08:11,620 --> 00:08:19,360 story that a scorpion and a frog sit by 153 00:08:15,850 --> 00:08:22,240 the side of the river and the Scorpion 154 00:08:19,360 --> 00:08:25,480 says to the Frog let me get on your back 155 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:27,520 so you can carry me across the river the 156 00:08:25,480 --> 00:08:30,220 Frog said no why would I do that you'll 157 00:08:27,520 --> 00:08:31,810 sting me and the Scorpion said no no 158 00:08:30,220 --> 00:08:33,849 honestly I won't why would I sting you 159 00:08:31,810 --> 00:08:36,940 if I sting you as across the water we 160 00:08:33,849 --> 00:08:38,830 both drowned the Frog says no no no 161 00:08:36,940 --> 00:08:43,300 honestly I will not sting you I just 162 00:08:38,830 --> 00:08:46,680 need to get across finally he convinces 163 00:08:43,300 --> 00:08:49,960 the the Scorpion convinces the Frog to 164 00:08:46,680 --> 00:08:52,870 let him go across on his back and that's 165 00:08:49,960 --> 00:08:54,370 what he does the Scorpion jumps on the 166 00:08:52,870 --> 00:08:55,720 back of the Frog and they start to go 167 00:08:54,370 --> 00:08:57,970 across the river and as they go across 168 00:08:55,720 --> 00:09:01,980 the river about halfway across the river 169 00:08:57,970 --> 00:09:07,450 the Scorpion flips his sail up and 170 00:09:01,980 --> 00:09:10,090 stings the Frog and the Frog begins to 171 00:09:07,450 --> 00:09:15,340 sink and as he does he turns to the 172 00:09:10,090 --> 00:09:19,180 scorpion and he says why why would you 173 00:09:15,340 --> 00:09:25,050 sting me were both going to die now and 174 00:09:19,180 --> 00:09:30,130 the Scorpion says because I'm a scorpion 175 00:09:25,050 --> 00:09:37,680 my wife was right of course my father 176 00:09:30,130 --> 00:09:41,889 would do that I said as I record this 177 00:09:37,680 --> 00:09:49,110 there are no tears they may come but 178 00:09:41,889 --> 00:09:53,440 there are no tears today this morning a 179 00:09:49,110 --> 00:10:00,220 relative let me know that my father has 180 00:09:53,440 --> 00:10:00,790 died my father died within the last 24 181 00:10:00,220 --> 00:10:04,300 hours 182 00:10:00,790 --> 00:10:09,269 I haven't seen him in many many many 183 00:10:04,300 --> 00:10:12,660 years and I don't feel particularly sad 184 00:10:09,269 --> 00:10:17,620 but if there is sadness 185 00:10:12,660 --> 00:10:21,070 it's in the thing that keeps us from our 186 00:10:17,620 --> 00:10:23,949 deep greatness it's the thing I want to 187 00:10:21,070 --> 00:10:27,399 challenge you to take a look at you see 188 00:10:23,949 --> 00:10:29,829 human beings cannot live without hope 189 00:10:27,399 --> 00:10:34,569 we know this this is a fact we cannot 190 00:10:29,829 --> 00:10:37,480 live without hope we all need hope but 191 00:10:34,569 --> 00:10:39,670 is your hope keeping you from your deep 192 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:43,540 greatness is it keeping you from what 193 00:10:39,670 --> 00:10:45,480 will really make you magnificent I don't 194 00:10:43,540 --> 00:10:48,990 think there's anything wrong with hope 195 00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:51,490 generally speaking there specifically 196 00:10:48,990 --> 00:10:54,850 where hope is a hindrance where hope 197 00:10:51,490 --> 00:10:58,029 will stagnate you is when you plant your 198 00:10:54,850 --> 00:11:00,149 tent in a land of hope where there is 199 00:10:58,029 --> 00:11:00,149 none 200 00:11:01,319 --> 00:11:08,260 when we give our hope to somebody or to 201 00:11:04,959 --> 00:11:10,690 something who will never fulfill it that 202 00:11:08,260 --> 00:11:13,300 disempowers us that keeps us away from 203 00:11:10,690 --> 00:11:15,430 our deep greatness it separates us from 204 00:11:13,300 --> 00:11:18,610 everything that is magnificent about us 205 00:11:15,430 --> 00:11:22,360 I want to challenge you to look at where 206 00:11:18,610 --> 00:11:25,029 you have hope have you placed your hope 207 00:11:22,360 --> 00:11:28,389 in the president in the prime minister 208 00:11:25,029 --> 00:11:33,910 in the leader in their CEO have you 209 00:11:28,389 --> 00:11:38,290 placed your hope in the economy have you 210 00:11:33,910 --> 00:11:44,499 placed your hope in a parent or a child 211 00:11:38,290 --> 00:11:46,389 or friend because you may have placed 212 00:11:44,499 --> 00:11:51,129 the hope but do you know whether that 213 00:11:46,389 --> 00:11:56,049 hope will ever be fulfilled things shift 214 00:11:51,129 --> 00:12:00,339 and change people shift and change your 215 00:11:56,049 --> 00:12:03,339 hope has to be firmly embedded in 216 00:12:00,339 --> 00:12:08,199 yourself in the deep bigness that lies 217 00:12:03,339 --> 00:12:17,289 within you my father's passing makes it 218 00:12:08,199 --> 00:12:18,999 clear to me there is no hope you see if 219 00:12:17,289 --> 00:12:21,449 there's a little part of me inside of me 220 00:12:18,999 --> 00:12:24,249 that little boy who lives inside of me 221 00:12:21,449 --> 00:12:26,079 maybe he had a little hope that one day 222 00:12:24,249 --> 00:12:27,609 my father would come along and he would 223 00:12:26,079 --> 00:12:30,729 put his arm around me and tell me he was 224 00:12:27,609 --> 00:12:33,489 proud of me but my father was the 225 00:12:30,729 --> 00:12:36,879 scorpion that's not what he's going to 226 00:12:33,489 --> 00:12:39,039 do but maybe while he was alive that 227 00:12:36,879 --> 00:12:42,730 little boy inside of me could hold on to 228 00:12:39,039 --> 00:12:45,069 that hope to some majestic some magical 229 00:12:42,730 --> 00:12:47,499 some miraculous shift would take place 230 00:12:45,069 --> 00:12:53,079 and my father would be able to do that 231 00:12:47,499 --> 00:12:55,059 but that's not who he was so my 232 00:12:53,079 --> 00:12:58,660 challenge to you in stepping into your 233 00:12:55,059 --> 00:13:04,959 own deep greatness is to challenge you 234 00:12:58,660 --> 00:13:08,949 to look at where you have placed hope my 235 00:13:04,959 --> 00:13:14,619 challenge to you is to pull up that tent 236 00:13:08,949 --> 00:13:18,899 that you've pitched in hope and instead 237 00:13:14,619 --> 00:13:22,239 look deeply within yourself to find out 238 00:13:18,899 --> 00:13:24,449 what your true internal potential is 239 00:13:22,239 --> 00:13:29,529 rather than your hope being in others 240 00:13:24,449 --> 00:13:31,029 what I want you to understand is that 241 00:13:29,529 --> 00:13:34,829 you've got to come out of the darkness 242 00:13:31,029 --> 00:13:34,829 and into the light 243 00:13:35,549 --> 00:13:41,559 we need hope to bring us out of the 244 00:13:38,259 --> 00:13:44,799 darkness it's what's made people survive 245 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:48,359 in the death camps it's what's made 246 00:13:44,799 --> 00:13:51,040 people survive in the most horrendous 247 00:13:48,359 --> 00:13:55,089 situations yes we need 248 00:13:51,040 --> 00:13:58,209 hope to live but be careful not to 249 00:13:55,089 --> 00:14:01,320 misplace your hope if you misplace your 250 00:13:58,209 --> 00:14:03,970 hope in someone else in something else 251 00:14:01,320 --> 00:14:07,680 you can never tap into that deep 252 00:14:03,970 --> 00:14:12,420 greatness that lies within you 253 00:14:07,680 --> 00:14:15,940 deep greatness is available to all of us 254 00:14:12,420 --> 00:14:17,889 but when some of that energy is filtered 255 00:14:15,940 --> 00:14:20,259 off into someone else whence when we 256 00:14:17,889 --> 00:14:24,310 give that part of ourselves to someone 257 00:14:20,259 --> 00:14:30,430 else we it stops being available to us 258 00:14:24,310 --> 00:14:32,589 it stops being accessible to us I want 259 00:14:30,430 --> 00:14:34,420 you to love with all your heart I want 260 00:14:32,589 --> 00:14:36,630 you to have enthusiasm with everything 261 00:14:34,420 --> 00:14:36,630 you've got 262 00:14:37,139 --> 00:14:44,649 but I challenge you to not place your 263 00:14:41,410 --> 00:14:47,980 hope in the potential of what other 264 00:14:44,649 --> 00:14:51,819 people could be what you hope they will 265 00:14:47,980 --> 00:14:55,630 be what you fantasize they will be if 266 00:14:51,819 --> 00:14:58,839 you're gonna have hope place the hope in 267 00:14:55,630 --> 00:15:00,360 the difference you can make when you tap 268 00:14:58,839 --> 00:15:02,970 into your deep greatness 269 00:15:00,360 --> 00:15:05,529 what is the difference that you'll make 270 00:15:02,970 --> 00:15:08,110 what is the hope that you'll bring to 271 00:15:05,529 --> 00:15:13,329 other people by your life by your 272 00:15:08,110 --> 00:15:20,019 magnificence by your greatness how do 273 00:15:13,329 --> 00:15:22,569 you become the light for others reclaim 274 00:15:20,019 --> 00:15:25,089 the power you've placed in another 275 00:15:22,569 --> 00:15:27,130 person reclaim the hope you've placed in 276 00:15:25,089 --> 00:15:29,769 some other situation because those 277 00:15:27,130 --> 00:15:33,970 moments that I talked about like 9/11 278 00:15:29,769 --> 00:15:35,800 they're moments where we lose hope for 279 00:15:33,970 --> 00:15:37,839 many people it's a moment where we lose 280 00:15:35,800 --> 00:15:39,060 hope we go you know it's the death of 281 00:15:37,839 --> 00:15:45,490 rock-and-roll 282 00:15:39,060 --> 00:15:48,399 because Elvis died it's the death of a 283 00:15:45,490 --> 00:15:50,620 free America because 9/11 happened we 284 00:15:48,399 --> 00:15:52,899 lose our hope in those moments and 285 00:15:50,620 --> 00:15:55,449 that's why they are such strong markers 286 00:15:52,899 --> 00:15:58,120 in our being and you've had markers in 287 00:15:55,449 --> 00:16:00,399 your life that have given you those 288 00:15:58,120 --> 00:16:04,199 places where you may have lost hope but 289 00:16:00,399 --> 00:16:04,199 you have regained it note that 290 00:16:04,410 --> 00:16:08,680 but if you want it to stay with you it 291 00:16:06,759 --> 00:16:10,300 won't stay with you if you just give it 292 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:11,680 to somebody else or you give it to 293 00:16:10,300 --> 00:16:13,540 something else because something will 294 00:16:11,680 --> 00:16:21,399 happen to that and it will be taken away 295 00:16:13,540 --> 00:16:24,220 from you again we hope we will be 296 00:16:21,399 --> 00:16:27,850 something else we hope we will become 297 00:16:24,220 --> 00:16:31,959 something better instead of taking the 298 00:16:27,850 --> 00:16:34,930 action that we need to take it would be 299 00:16:31,959 --> 00:16:37,569 nice if hope was real it would be nice 300 00:16:34,930 --> 00:16:40,329 if just hoping for it made it happen but 301 00:16:37,569 --> 00:16:42,370 that isn't how it works so what I call 302 00:16:40,329 --> 00:16:45,009 for you is I call for you to tap into 303 00:16:42,370 --> 00:16:49,560 your own deep greatness place your hope 304 00:16:45,009 --> 00:16:53,620 in the difference you can make and 305 00:16:49,560 --> 00:16:56,920 reclaim your deep greatness til next 306 00:16:53,620 --> 00:16:59,980 time this is Doug Barron full monty 307 00:16:56,920 --> 00:17:03,430 leadership comm saying stay curious my 308 00:16:59,980 --> 00:17:06,539 friend stay curious about where you may 309 00:17:03,430 --> 00:17:08,980 have misplaced hope and claim it back 310 00:17:06,539 --> 00:17:11,439 and along with it claim your deep 311 00:17:08,980 --> 00:17:15,000 greatness till next time this is Doug 312 00:17:11,439 --> 00:17:15,000 Barron and I am